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To Wax or Not to Wax — That Was the Bloody Question

  To Wax or Not to Wax — That Was the Bloody Question Picture it. I’m already super poorly. I don’t have a science degree. I can’t even say sinusitis properly. I didn’t know I had a neck ache until it was too late. And it’s Vegas. The massage felt like the man had just finished on the slot machines and wandered over to give me a rub‑down. The head massage was… something. He drenched my hair in oil, scrubbed my scalp like he was trying to win a prize, and when I looked in the mirror I looked like I’d stepped straight out of the late 1980s — perm, hot oil, the lot. Then came the waxing. When I say I was unprepared, I mean UNPREPARED. No one tells you that being waxed when you’re already unwell is a terrible idea. No one tells you that being waxed when you’re neurodivergent and menopausal is basically a sensory assault course. She pulls the first strip. “Oh my God, you’ve got to be kidding me.” Second strip. “No, seriously, you’ve GOT to be kidding me.” By the third, I’m done. I tell...
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The Itsy Bitsy Teeny Bikini Bottoms Incident - Memoir Shard

  THE BIKINI BOTTOM BETRAYAL (The Itsy Bitsy Teeny Bikini Bottoms Incident) When you go on holiday in your menopausal era, packing becomes a whole personality test. In my case packing paralysis - Stress, You think you’ve been sensible. You think you’ve chosen the bikini bottoms appropriate for a 50‑year‑old woman who is about to spend a weekend in water rapids with fifteen friends at a wedding party. Not a romantic getaway, Itsy‑Bitsy‑Bikini style. Not a private sun‑lounger moment. A group activity situation. And I’m not saying I shouldn’t wear a tiny pant — I absolutely can — but sometimes you want a bit of coverage. Not for shame. For practicality. For movement. For the reassurance that a buttock isn’t going to make a surprise appearance mid‑splash. So I packed the bikini. (Big mistake: I didn’t take it out of the delivery packaging.) Third bikini in this style. I packed the bottoms. I thought I packed the bigger pair — and by “bigger” I don’t mean Bridget Jones. I mean “slight ...
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THE DAY I FELT USELESS AND DID EVERYTHING ANYWAY - This triptych was written from a voice note, in a car, while constantly stopping at red lights.

  BLOG POST 3 — THE DAY I FELT USELESS AND DID EVERYTHING ANYWAY Today I didn’t feel good. Not physically, not mentally, not energetically. I felt like a puppet with half its strings missing and the other half tangled. I felt like a woman who had slept too much and somehow not enough. But here’s the strange thing: I still did everything. I answered my messages. I made it to the first thing, even if I was late. I talked to my son. I talked to my daughter. I met a friend. I ate breakfast. I had conversations I didn’t think I had the brain for. I brushed a horse. I lived a whole day while feeling like a malfunctioning marionette. And it made me realise something I’ve never had time to realise before: Feeling is hard. Feeling is new. Feeling is something I used to outrun by being busy, by being early, by being prepared, by being everything to everyone. Now I’m slowing down. Now I’m letting feelings in. Now I’m noticing the gap between how I feel and what I do. And today, even feelin...
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RED LIGHT, RED LIGHT, RED LIGHT - This triptych was written from a voice note, in a car, while constantly stopping at red lights.

 BLOG POST 2 — RED LIGHT, RED LIGHT, RED LIGHT I woke up late. Not “a bit late”. Late‑late. The kind of late where the world has already started without you and you’re still in the prologue. I missed my antibiotics. My ears were doing their underwater symphony. And every single traffic light turned red. Every. Single. One. It felt like the universe was saying, “Stop.” And I was saying, “I can’t, I’ve got plans.” And the universe was saying, “No, really, stop.” And I was saying, “I’ve got micro‑plans, actually, and they’re manageable.” And the universe was saying, “Red light.” And I was saying, “I hear you but I’m still going.” I used to be early for everything. I built systems around my lateness before I even knew it was AU-DHD. I padded time. I over‑prepared. I left margins. I lived in a constant state of readiness because I didn’t trust my brain. Then I got diagnosed. And I softened. And I let myself be human. And now I’m late. Not because I don’t care — but because my brain is a...
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THE NIGHT I SLEPT TWICE MY LIFE - This triptych was written from a voice note, in a car, while constantly stopping at red lights.

  BLOG POST 1 —  THE NIGHT I SLEPT TWICE MY LIFE I’ve never been a sleeper. Not in childhood, not in motherhood, not in menopause, not in neurodivergence. I always thought it was hypervigilance, or personality, or “just me”. I didn’t know it was ADHD and autism until fifty, and suddenly the whole pattern of my life made sense — the nights, the pacing, the half‑sleep, the wired‑tired body that never shuts down, my youth where it past sleepless, when i could manage on endorphins and love alone. Then I travelled long‑haul and got sick. Proper sick. Sinus, ears, antibiotics, the whole thing. And because I wasn’t in my house — my safe place, my routines, my sensory control — I didn’t care for myself the way I do at home. There really is no place like home, especially when your body is a system you have to manually operate. The first night back, I slept. I thought it was jet lag. I thought it was the four hours I somehow got on the plane — which I now realise was probably illness, n...
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WHEN I GROW UP - #RA - IF I EVER HAD A ROOM AT THE ROYAL ACADEMY HERE IS MY ART IDEA

WHEN I GROW UP  I USED A LIBERTY BOX TO CREATE MY LITERAL GALLERY AND THEN COPILOT AI TO PUT IT INTO PRACTICE.   THE CANVAS WOULD BE HUGE POST IT STYLE BOARDS WITH FLORAL LETTERS WRITTEN USING OLD GRAVE STONE FLOWERS THE FORGOTTEN FADED OLD TYPE.
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